“#AllLivesMatter”? Shut up.

Okay, seriously. Shut the fuck up with “All Lives Matter”.

All lives should matter. Intrinsically, all lives matter. But socially, psychologically, politically, philosophically, actually, all lives do not matter. Black people are disproportionately jailed and shot by the police, Muslims and Middle Eastern-looking people are looked at funny in airports and airplanes, gay and transgendered people are violently assaulted for their identities.

And there are so many more issues like these: people being feared, hated, killed, and not being respected, for their looks, beliefs and identities.

When we say “Black Lives Matter,” we are saying “Black lives matter, too,” not “Black lives matter more”

Black lives matter too, so you should care about police brutality.

Black lives matter too, so you shouldn’t demonize unarmed black victims in death, in a way you don’t even do for white perpetrators.

Black lives matter, despite the ongoing racism that so many would like to continue to deny and ignore.

And that’s what #AllLivesMatter does. It sweeps the real issue under the rug in a façade of humanism.

Just so you know, if you’re saying #AllLivesMatter in an attempt at silencing and refuting #BlackLivesMatter, you’ve outted yourself as a liar. Your hypocrisy is obvious.

I am not gay, transgendered, Muslim, an immigrant, or disabled, but I will say, without hesitation, that their lives matter.

If you cannot say, without any caveats, that Black Lives Matter, then you do not think All Lives Matter. Period. End of point.

Please try your hand actually proving that all lives matter, or shut the fuck up.


To the friends I’ve lost because I talk about racism:

Consider, if only for a moment, the absurdity of you unfollowing, unfriending, blocking, harassing, SILENCING, someone who is dedicated to educating people (and themselves) on the realities of racism and the push for equality.

Now contrast that with the sheer hypocrisy of you telling me that you “still care” about racism as an issue – it’s just annoying for you to see me talking about it all the time.

Let’s be real: you don’t give a shit.

Not about me (your “friend”), not about people who suffer and die because of the way that they look, and certainly not about racism.

My heart hurts for losing someone I considered a real friend. It hurts more knowing you are part of the reason racism is still an issue. And either you don’t know this, or you don’t care.

I get it.

No one wants to hear, see, or think about something so ugly on such a regular basis.

People don’t like how it makes them feel.

If you can’t even stand to see it come up on your Facebook newsfeed, just imagine how people who experience it must feel.

That attempt at empathy might actually make you care enough to help me fight the awfulness that I feel the need to keep talking about.

Open Letter to Bill Duke re: “Light Girls”

“Dear Bill Duke,

I watched the premiere of your new movie “Light Girls” Monday night.

About a month ago, I watched your original movie “Dark Girls” with my mom and my nineteen-year-old sister — all of us ourselves dark girls — and enjoyed it greatly. Though it wasn’t the pinnacle of sociological thought, I appreciated the rawness of the film, the fact that its central thesis was rooted in the exposure of systemic racism and a certain symptom of it: colorism.

I was expecting from “Light Girls” what I got from “Dark Girls.”

So, imagine my disappointment when I actually watched the movie.”

Read my full letter over at Medium!

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